OOTD & de-stressing rules

Trousers: Topshop
Top: Topshop (old)
Jacket: Topshop
Bag: Bali (similar here)
Boots: Glassons

Anyone else constantly have that nagging feeling that you should be doing something else? Like with work, you question whether you're following the right career path, or doing the right job ATM for your supposed chosen career, or with general life feeling when you're chilling at home that you should be at the gym or when you're out doing something you question whether you should be spending the money? etc etc

 I've always wanted to constantly improve on myself, my appearance and my life - always wanting to move forwards and not stay stagnant, or god forbid, go backwards. But putting this constant pressure on myself, I've figured, is not always the best, most productive thing. Constantly focussing on goals and how we want to be in the future means you're not having fun in the now. And what is the point in a life resulting in achieved goals but minimal enjoyment? 
While I was travelling my skin cleared up, and I became so much happier and de-stressed. Obviously, it's great to be seeing new and exciting places every day and this should make anyone happy, but one of the biggest differences in my travelling self v normal self is that my travelling self (especially while travelling with three friends and going with the flow of whatever they wanted to do) can't plan. While travelling, I wasn't worried about whether I was doing the right thing all the time - I was going with the flow for a set period of months, letting others make the decisions and just focussing on enjoying myself. The dream, right?

The thing I'm realising now, however, is that I could definitely live a little more like this in my normal 9-5 existence. So here are 8 Simple Rules I've set myself:

1. Don't overthink anything, if you want to do it and have the means - do it, if you don't want to do it - don't do it. Simple yet an under-the-radar concept these days
2. Don't let what other people might think influence you or stop you from doing you
3. Don't ever compare yourself to others, career, job, life, hair-wise. You don't know whether they're happy and really happiness should be the biggest goal in life
4. DO do what makes you feel good and achieved, but if you don't manage to do it constantly, don't beat yourself up over it - just go with the flow. Sometimes after work you might feel too tired to go the gym, don't push yourself if you're going to be miserable, a time will come when you're fully into it and ready to get ripped (coming from someone who snook back past the receptionist 5 mins after entering and pretended to be on the phone having an emergency - was attempting to go worth the anxiety of having to do this - NO)
5. DO do more of the things that calm you down and distract you from your own thoughts. For example, reading, watching films and watching Netflix. I used to feel like these were unproductive activities, but anything that improves your happiness and wellbeing is not unproductive
6. Don't worry about a decision after making it. You made it for a reason so accept it and go with it. In the wise words of Robbie W: No regrets - they only hurt
7. Don't worry in general, what good is that going to do. Easier said than done, I know, but I'm pretty sure that this becomes easier with time, as you realise that nothing is Thaatt big of a deal
8. If you don't like something in your life, and it is on your mind, DO do something about it



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